The waiting game,..

I am waiting for the meds which should come today by mail, then I'm waiting till 9/1 to start taking my Lupron shots. I have no real idea what to expect and I like it that way. I don't want to know if I'm going to be sick if it makes you feel pregnant, ect. I purposly have avoided reading about it and checking into it.I don't want to fill my head with things because I know if I see it, it will happen. So here it is will keep you posted.

the 21st day of my cycle is when??

Ok so maybe I'm just slow because I have never had to count days of my cycle. I am scheduled to start my shots on the 21st day of my cycle. I ask when is that??? Well I got a very fantastic clean cut answer so I will share it with those who have not had to count days of their cycle.

Answer is:

Trust me, these are not dumb questions!

Day 1 is full flow before 5pm. If full flow occurs later in the evening, the next day is considered day 1 of her cycle. Day 21 is the 21st day of her cycle with day 1 being

full flow day

I had to leave in the little part that said "these are not dumb questions"!!

So we are moving along, R is getting the meds in line and going to send them up. Only worry at this point is that he is saying that we may try to transplant first week of Oct. Well if you've been reading along up to this point you will know that we are planning on being in Disney Sept. 27- Oct.4. Awww, so I sent R a text reminder. Hopefully we'll be able to do it maybe Oct 7-9. I have to go down for 3 days because the transfer has a period of 3 days that it may be best for the transfer.. Fascinating all the stuff you learn. Which I think was one of the reasons I wanted to blog this journey to teach as well as share my experience.

We're signed......

Well we signed the contract FINALLY. I feel like that it's taken forever I have been very lucky that it hasn't been because we have been quibbling about it. The hold up has been from the lawyers I feel. Well both party's apparently have been very busy. R and I on the other hand have been solely focused on our goal. It does look like maybe our timeline will be pushed back though. I still have to start shots at some point and R has to go "donor" shopping. So origianally we had set for August for possible transfer, but it may be as far out as September. I did plan a vacation in Disney for late September woo hooo food and wine festeval. It depends on the tranfer date but it could just be the food festival for me, here's hoping.

Sadness for Ivy

So we're going over our contracts once again so R can read over it and get them signed feels like this should have been done by now. Was reading Ivy's blog and was so sad to hear about what a terrible journey she went through, I learned two things from this though:

1st I'm not going to feel guilty about not lowering my fee to "help" out my IP. I have struggled with this idea over and over and have been back and forth with the idea of giving him a break. I always go back to this idea of what's the price of free. FREE. It sounds so callous maybe but you value something that you invest in.

2nd I am very blessed to be working with my IP. He may honestly get on my nerves sometimes because he is so cautious and over protective but better that than uncaring.

So that being said, for those of you who have followed Ivy, and if she is reading this I am very sorry for all that you went through and a lesson for us all. Thanks.

Hotlanta!!!..

Here we come .....well already went. So it's true we made our way to the dirty south ya'll. We flew in on Sunday and R took us to dinner at the coolest restaurant. It was called Two Urban Licks a very interesting warehouse restaurant that had amazing food! It had this fantastic view of the skyline and we went just as the sun was starting to set only adding to the great ambiance.... By the way R we already said yes. So then Monday was a whirlwind.....blood drawn,...ultra sound (to make sure lining was good),....to meet with Dr,...meet with nurse,.....lunch,...meet with crazy doc. My head is still spinning. All in all though all was good, we are a go and we are still waiting to sign a contract. Next step certainly, I think everyone (the attorneys) wanted us to go through this initial round of Dr visits before we signed . That's all for now on our end R has to finish his profile and start searching for an egg doner. Momma shopping good luck!!

Plans being made........

So I spoke with the doctor we are working with in Atlanta for the transfer. Well I almost missed that call ...well to be completely honest I DID miss the call. I had my phone turned down because I was at my sons play earlier and I turned my phone on silent. DumB... so the call I've been waiting for all week I blew. She left a message so I called back and was very apologetic. I'm sure behind all that nice southern charm she was like what kind of dingbat is R dealing with here. At any rate I felt like a total dufus. Well after we went through the routine "do you have any medical issues?", it looks like we are a go to meet in Atlanta. This will be our first visit to Atlanta to go over our plan to prepare for "THE TRANSFER". The meeting in which we find out how much pain my husband will get to inflict upon me because I'm pretty sure I am not going to be able to give myself shots. I'm not much one for pain, in case you hadn't picked up on that. It looks like June 1st is the date it's moving along.

It's all good in the hood....

Say's my new ObGyn who is awesome by the way. I met her yesterday for my first appointment and to go over my plans for surrogacy. My lawyer suggested that I let her know about working with a single gay man to make sure she was OK with it. I'm pretty sure I saw Dr. B roll her eyes at me when I asked, as if to say really?, why would I have a problem?. It should be known that I live in Columbus which has the 3rd highest gay population in the country and considered the gay capitol of the Midwest. I kinda figured that any doctor dealing with surrogacy in CBus would be ok with it so I almost felt silly asking, and apparently rightly so. At any rate I am in good shape and she thinks I should have no problems being a surro as I have had no problems getting pregnant in the past and have had no gynecological issues.

So it's off to the races, R sent me a "Honey Do" list of things we need to accomplish before we go to Atlanta for our initial visit with the clinic. By the way how sweet is my "baby daddy" he specifically searched out a highly qualified female physician to work with because I prefer to work with woman. I even told him it was not really necessary since I would only be dealing with them on a couple of occasions. It's not like I have a problem with male Dr's either it's really just about the fact that I like to support woman in their professional fields. He insisted though and has met with her and is really excited to be working with her. He seemed to be very impressed with the facility, their entire faculty and setup.

It's weird as I was projectile vomiting today because of my bad tuna lunch I had my first reality check of wow I am really going to be doing this,.... and I am so excited!! As the Joker said "Here we Go"!!